I have a confession to make…
I am a bit of a complainer.
And depending on who you ask, they might argue with the word “bit” in the statement above. They might just say — I am a complainer.
I know everyone complains and I probably do more than most. I am sure it shows in my writings on this site, hopefully not too much. Considering 30.7% of my website traffic is returning visitors, I am probably not doing it as much as I think I am.
I think we can all agree on two things;
- We all complain
- No one likes a complainer
In this blog post, I want to talk about a book I read, a purple bracelet and how the two are going to change my life. It’s a movement that involves more than 10 million people in 106 countries. It has been featured on Oprah, the Today Show, The ABC Evening News, Fox News, and in Newsweek, the Wall Street Journal, Chicken Soup for the Soul and more.
If you are interested in;
- Better health
- Happier relationships
- Greater career success
- Significant increases in happiness
This might be the most important blog post you read today.
My Christmas list this past year consisted of 8 items — 6 of them being books. Ten years ago I would have laughed if you told me that. I would have not believed it. I bet my High School teachers would laugh if you told them. They certainly wouldn’t believe you if you told them.
When I hear about a good book, I add it to my Amazon wishlist. It’s more to keep track, as I have a lot of things I’ll never order. Just before Christmas, I logged in to my Amazon account to see what books I had added throughout the year. I am guessing it was somewhere between 25-30. Some I do not remember adding and some were for sure going on my Christmas list.
I received 5 books for Christmas and now had to decide on which one to read first. It didn’t take long. It was a book by Will Bowen titled A Complaint Free World: How to Stop Complaining and Start Enjoying the Life You Always Wanted.
Bowen’s message is a simple one — Quit complaining. If you do, you’ll be happier and healthier.
In the book, Bowen issues a 21-day challenge. 21 days is how long it takes to break a habit, according to Bowen. I have heard that from others as well. The challenge is to go 21 consecutive days and you cannot do the following;
- Say something sarcastic aloud
According to Bowen, it can take anywhere from 6 – 10 months to complete the challenge. See why?
According to the book, complaining has been shown by research psychologists to be detrimental to a person’s physical and emotional health, relationships and to limit their career success.
Here are some more interesting facts from the book;
- The average person complains 15 – 30 times per day, resulting in roughly 4.5 BILLION complaints every day in the United States
- Complaining keeps people focused on current problems, stultifying their innate abilities to seek create positive, harmonious solutions
- A Complaint Free World is a non-profit organization that encourages people to stop complaining and redirect their minds toward more positive, constructive and rewarding lives
- A Complaint Free World has sent out 10 million Complaint Free purple bracelets to participants in 106 countries around the world who use them to monitor their success at achieving 21 consecutive Complaint Free days, thereby transforming their negative attitudes to positive
- A Complaint Free World’s intention is to transform the attitude of the world’s people from negative to positive by inspiring no less than 1 percent of the global population (60 million people) to become Complaint Free
- Thousands of schools in the United States have taken on the Complaint Free program, with tens of thousands of students of all ages achieving amazing results in creating positive attitudes
The Purple Bracelet
Will Bowen has created these purple bracelets that you wear on your wrist. You are to switch your bracelet with every spoken complaint. Not every negative thought. Over time, your negative thoughts will lessen significantly, but only move the bracelet when you complain, criticize, gossip or say something sarcastic out loud.
After finishing the book, I went to his website to order my purple bracelets. I ordered a pack of ten to distribute to family and friends. I received the bracelets last Friday. After about 4 days, I am still on day one. It is certainly an adjustment, but I have noticed I am improving. I am thinking before speaking — I know, a novel concept, huh?
I believe on Saturday I changed the bracelet 3-4 times during dinner. I was on a bit of a rant and almost forgot about the bracelet.
My goal is to complete the 21-day challenge by August 8th of this year, my 33rd birthday. It is not going to be easy, but I know it will be a lot of fun.
So, are you up for the challenge? Do you think you could go 21 consecutive days without complaining? Please let me know in the comments below if this is something you’d be interested in.